It never ceases to surprise me that you don’t know what you don’t know until you learn you didn’t know what you didn’t know.

I hope all that word play wasn’t lost on you. Keeping an open mind — a beginner’s mind — is essential to rapid learning and to rapid growth, and made me think about why I wanted to be a life coach…

Back in the day, I used to watch planes land at the SFO airport from my parents’ living room window and I would dream about what it would be like to land those airplanes on that runway, and what it would be like to be that free- to do anything you wanted to do– and not have some person tell you, “Your’e wrong, you’re choice is wrong, and find something better to do with your time.”

You know the funny thing about dreams when you’re a kid is that they are so fragile. You are looking outside of yourself to your parents, teachers, friends — anyone – to tell you, “Hey, you go after that, you can do it.” And when you don’t have that in your life, it is a very difficult road to develop that skill in yourself.

These rules that are imposed on us when we are children, and even as adults — rules of society, rules of conduct, rules of interacting with anyone are not my rules per se – they are traditions, they are the ways things were done; and sometimes, the way things are done isn’t helpful to you and me, and actually get in the way of our successes.

One of the reasons I became a life coach is to bring people back to “hey, you can make the rules of your own life.”Yes there is a moral and ethical code, but sometimes – a lot of the times – people confuse preference for morality; preference for rightness.

As an adult, you have the ability to distinguish for yourself what is a preference and what is a rule you want to follow. When you get clear on that, then you are able to choose the life you want to lead and not have someone elses rules dictate to you how it is going to be.

I am so passionate about this because I see too many instances of suffering just due to that one faulty premise – this is the way it’s always been done and you have to do it that way.

No you don’t. You can create a life full of light, love, and happiness on your own terms.

So that’s why I became a life coach.

Thanks for reading!