It has been a whirlwind these past couple of weeks. Between heading back home from California to selling our home with a close date that is less than three weeks away, I kind of feel like there is not enough time to do it all.

It’s sort of like preparing for a mandatory evacuation when a hurricane is barreling  down toward Florida.

For me, I’ve had my share of hurricanes in the past 23 years I’ve lived in St. Augustine. My family and I have been blessed in those years without having had any damage to our home or harm come to the people we care about. There has been a lot of worry, certainly, and a lot of uncertainty during those times. The overall feeling could be summed up as, “Not again. Oh my gosh what is going to happen?” The cycle went something like this: We get the news, we prepare, decide whether to evacuate, pack, annoyed about the hassle of evacuating, worry, fear, uncertainty, relief, and annoyance about the hassle of getting back to normal. Right?

The photograph above is of Hurricane Floyd and was taken back in 1999. I knew this even back then, and yet, I only remember it now: Within the eye of every storm there is calm. Doesn’t matter if you and I are in some major sucking low pressure and chaos surrounds us. In the end, all we can control is what is inside of us.

Let me explain. Did you know that the reason the eye is so calm is because it has the lowest barometric pressure of the storm? When I was a pilot, I learned that high pressure moves toward low pressure  – it’s a natural law – so the eye is calm, because as the wind converges towards its center, the circular motion deflects the wind slightly, causing the wind to rotate around the center but unable to penetrate it because the lowest pressure is always moving out toward the high pressure that surrounds it. It is like a pivot point around which thundestorms, wind, the rain – the chaos – can barely touch. What does this have to do with the chaos of selling our house and moving? Read on.

So to sum up this principle, within the eye you and I are safe; within the eye you and I can have peace. And guess who controls the “I” [sic]? We do.

In the end, we control what is inside us — Christine Jeffrey

The “eye” with which you see the world dictates how you will handle the amount of chaos that surrounds you. Typically what begins as a choice ends up becoming a habit when we repeat it over and over again. So, if you learned to handle a lot of stress in a way that doesn’t serve you now, there are steps you can take to have the mindset you need to navigate any sort of major change in your life with grace.

This isn’t a skill we are born with. You and I can learn a new way to handle stress just like we learned how to read and write in school — Christine Jeffrey

So follow these four steps and practice them consistently. Pretty soon, your strength to hold your disposition will increase, your understanding will increase, and your ability to make better decisions will also increase.

How To Control The Eye

  1.  Gratitude – Self awareness, understanding and happiness always starts here. Be genuinely thankful for all of your experiences – not just the ones you like. You benefit from your struggles as much as you benefit — sometimes more — from the gifts you’ve received.
  2.  Release – Let go of attachment to the way things should be or to the things you have experienced or the things you own. In the end, we are all just custodians of time and space. In letting go, you find that you free up much-needed space in your head and your heart.
  3.  Render – As in render good wishes, good energy and good feeling to what is happening now — most importantly to yourself first, and then, to others. Acceptance makes it so much easier to navigate to the right decisions for ourselves. Accept where you are at right now and wish yourself well!
  4. Remember – To look forward to all the wonderful experiences that will be heading your way soon. Life is never one big downward spiral. There are always downtimes, uptimes, and in-between times. Look forward to the good that is on the horizon!

Hey! Did you notice the acronym?!! GRRR – LOL! What a great cue to remember these four tips.

That’s it. I’m using these 4 steps over and over again, because I need to be reminded, too. We are under a deadline, but it’s all good. We got this!

And so do you! Try it for yourself and see. Leave a comment, ask a question, I am here to help.

Thanks for reading, and until next time,

Remember, you are so much more than who you believe yourself to be!