Does this sound like you?

I am deeply satisfied with my life. I love the people I get to see on a daily basis and I get to experience joy, creativity and connection. I am involved in interesting projects that allow me to contribute to the world in a way that is meaningful to me. I feel alive each day and am grateful that I get to live this beautiful life. Even when there are problems, I feel engaged and positive about the possibilities in my life. I choose my actions and I decide for myself how I will be in any given situation. When I look in the mirror, I like the person I see. I am happy with my actions and I am looking forward to what the day will bring.

The person I just described is someone who thinks and acts independently. That person follows his or her internal compass and lives intentionally. He or she couldn’t describe their feelings and experiences that way unless they were self directed. Could the person I just described be you? If not, you can learn the mindset and skill set you need to develop into someone who thinks and acts independently. Someone who has the freedom to choose.

Freedom Isn’t Free

Freedom, in this context, requires clarity, courage and a willingness to sacrifice mindless living. This type of freedom requires thought, attention and intention to live life on your own terms.How badly do you want it? Have you had enough of the status quo? Are you tired of letting other people tell you what to do and how to do it? What would it be like for you to finally break free from the conditioning of the past and step into the light – step into your light?!

In order to create a life that you love, you need to act on your own voice and vision– Christine Jeffrey

What are the benefits of breaking the chains of conditioning and thinking for yourself? More. More satisfaction, more freedom, more opportunities, and more fulfillment. When Joseph Campbell said,”Follow your bliss”, this is what he was talking about.

Do you really believe that you and I were born to have others tell us what to think and what to do?  I believe that we agree to give up our personal power in exchange for something that we value; that is how the world works. So, the real question is about tradeoffs. “Is the tradeoff worth it to you?”


If you think it is time for you to start to think and to act for yourself, so that, you can have more pride, more self trust, and more fulfillment, here are some clarity questions to ask yourself:

  1. Does this action/inaction align with my beliefs?
  2. Does this action/inaction align with my values?
  3. Will this action/inaction serve my highest and best self?
  4. Will I be proud of myself if I did or didn’t do it?
  5. What are the consequences to my self trust if I choose this?
  6. If I do this, will I still like myself?
  7. What is true for me in this moment?
  8. Am I choosing this to please others?
  9. What does my gut say?
  10. If I didn’t do it, am I willing to accept the consequences?

When you start checking in with yourself, consistently, your self trust muscle grows and your internal compass will begin to guide you more and more. What could be possible for you when you experience that kind of freedom? How much better will your life get? I vote for you to have the people and the experiences that you love!

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Remember, you are capable of experiencing so much more!