I got back last Friday from a week of intense high-performance coaching training which was not unlike going through the guantlet of a 3.5 hour black belt test in Tae Kwon Do only it was more like 8 hours each day and it lasted for 5 days. Whew! I may be young at heart, but I’m still feeling it and it’s TUESDAY, people!
This week’s post is not only about that experience, but also about a key insight I gained when I realized what “being first” actually meant.
This is my second year as a CHPC and my first year returning to recertify as a high-performance coach. I didn’t know it at the time, but I was about to learn so much more about myself than I did about the skill, the art and the heart of coaching.
If you had asked me before the training what “being first” meant, I would have said something along the lines of “Being first means winning first place, getting that contract, being the first to bring a product to market and so on…” Is that what you thought, too? Being first meant some sort of high-performers’ ninja trick for success? Where you annihilate the competition – in a nice way – on your way to everlasting glory?
So what was this epiphany I had during our hours of training? It wasn’t one, actually, it was several. I’m not sure if it had to do with the fact that my mom passed away recently and I was struggling to bring my A game or that I was returning to familiar ground, but I don’t think knowing why it happened really matters at this point. What really matters is that I recognized a success principle that I have been using to get myself to do the hard thing, the brave thing, the thing that if you and I thought about it, we would probably talk ourselves out of doing and be content to play small. This is what I want to share with you this week.
By the way, did you see my certificate? I have another trophy to put on my “brag wall.” It feels good to look at it and recognize the work and dedication it took to earn that certification, but in the end, any trophy you and I earn has to really mean something to us. When I look at that certificate, I see the hours of coaching, the hours of honing my craft to be the best coach I can be. Why? For the money? Not really. I want to be the best I can be at what I do, because I love people. Whether I like you or not, whether I want to hang out with you or not, whether we hit it off or not, I want you to have a life that matters to you. A life where you struggle less and are happy more often. A life that makes you proud and excited to call your own. A life, that when you really think about it, takes your breath away. Because isn’t that what love is? Love as in a verb.
A fellow wise coach advised me at one point, “Lead don’t think” and that was when I realized what I had been doing that gave me the best results of my life. When I kill it, slay it, or however you want to call it, I was choosing to “be first.”
As in the first one to say hello, the first one to offer a helping hand, the first one to say, “yes.” I was the first one to be a friend, to be a shoulder to lean on, to be “that person” who shows up. I was the first one to be brave and the first one to do the work. I was the first one to make the hard decisions and stick to them. And by being first, I gave others permission to do the same.
There were a lot of talented people in the room with different missions and different motivations. We did not only have a group of high performance coaches in the room, we had a room of high performers pushing themselves to achieve their next level of fulfillment and success.
I am pretty certain everyone came away from that experience with some insight that will make their next actions meaningful and powerful. Which led me to another key insight:
What being first really means is taking that next, right, BOLD action step for you!Christine Jeffrey
Simply, when you push yourself to “be first” or, in other words, take that next right action for you, abundance flows. Not in a woo woo way. In a very real, tangible and concrete way. It’s obvious but worth repeating: When you get one step closer to that goal, you get energy, you are getting results and you are becoming the person you want to be.
Below is a process I use to lead rather than think. When you decide to be a leader in your life, you not only get happy, because you are making progress, you see the impact that you have on others.
Are you ready?
The Success Principle in 1 Move
Be First. Be the first one to say hello. Be the first one to give a helping hand. Be the first one to apologize. Be the first one to include someone in the group. Be the first one to start the conversation. Be the first one to say, “Thank you.” Be the first one to take that next, right, action for you!
And when you decide to give first, to love first, to help first, to be first, the world opens up to you in ways that you can’t imagine. The abundance and gratitude you feel, just by that one little shift, is like a tidal wave of light that raises you up, but also, raises everyone else up, as well. Isn’t that the whole point?
When you are at death’s door, what do you really want to feel about yourself and about how you lived your life? You and I, we are the judges of our successes and failures. So what rules do you have to set up so that you meet and exceed them? We only have one shot to make this count, that I know of, so what are you going to do?
If this at all resonates with you, make the decision to just do that. Be a light in this world, because we need more people who come alive in this way. Come on board the “BE FIRST MOVEMENT!” No, we don’t have a meeting hall or a facebook group…yet, but we can simply make the decision, each and every single day, to be first. Thanks for taking the time to read this,
If you find that you do want to work with someone who is trained to help you get to your next level of fulfillment and success – where you want to “be first” in going for the best version of yourself, then I want you to consider working with me. The greatest transformation in my life happened when I worked with a coaches trained to help me go to that next level and I want you to experience that kind of quality working relationship, as well.
Please click the link below and apply for a free strategy session with me where I let you experience the power of this style of coaching first hand. Your next level starts when you say yes to that next, best, right step for you.
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I believe in you and your ability to figure out the next right steps for you! Leave a comment, ask a question, I am here to help.
Thank you so much for reading and until next time,
Coach “Be First”