What’s being first mean to you?

I got back last Friday from a week of intense high-performance coach’s training which was not unlike going through the gauntlet of a 3.5 hour black belt test in taekwondo — only it was more like 8 hours each day and it lasted for 5 days. Whew! I may be young at heart, but I’m still feeling it and it’s TUESDAY, people!

This is my second year as a CHPC and my first year returning to re-certify as a high-performance coach. I didn’t know it at the time, but I was about to learn so much more about myself than I did about the skill and the art of coaching.

If you had asked me before the training what “being first” meant, I would have said something along the lines of “Being first means winning first place, getting that contract, being the first to bring a product to market and so on…”

Is that what you thought, too?

I’m not sure whether my epiphany about “being first” had to with how acutely my emotions were at play. (My mom had passed the month before and I was struggling to bring my A game.) What really matters is that I recognized a success principle that I have been using to get myself to do the hard thing, the brave thing, the thing that if you and I thought about it, we would probably talk ourselves out of doing. This realization is what I want to share with you this week.

By the way, did you notice my certificate? Last year, I was scared to death to apply to become a high performance coach. I even had to shoot a video for admission! Talk about sweating bullets and waiting on pins and needles to hear if I was accepted. I did it anyway because I felt it was the next right step for me. When I look at that certificate now, I see the hours of honing my craft to be the best coach I can be.

Why did I go through that pain? Was it for the money? Not really. I want to be the best I can be at what I do, because I love people. Whether I like you or not, whether I want to hang out with you or not, whether we hit it off or not, doesn’t matter. I want you to have a life that matters to you. A life where you struggle less and are happy more often. A life that makes you proud and excited to call your own. A life, that when you really think about it, takes your breath away.

When I kill it, slay it, or win, I was choosing to “be first.”

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So what does being first actually mean?

Being first means: Be the first one to say hello, the first one to offer a helping hand, the first one to say, “Yes.” I was the first one to be a friend, to be a shoulder to lean on, to be “that person” who shows up. I was the first one to be brave and the first one to do the work. I was the first one to make the hard decisions and stick to them.

And by being first, I gave others permission to do the same.

I was among a lot of talented people in that training room with different missions and different motivations pushing themselves to achieve their next level of fulfillment and success; and I am pretty certain everyone came away from that experience with some insight that will make their next actions meaningful and powerful.

Which led me to another key insight: Being first also means taking that next right step for you.

When you push yourself to take that next right step, abundance flows. Not in a woo woo kind of way. In a very real and tangible way. It’s obvious but worth repeating: When you get one step closer to that goal, you get energy and you get closer to becoming the person you want to be.

Are you ready?

The Success Principle in 1 Move


Be First. Be the first one to say hello. Be the first one to give a helping hand. Be the first one to apologize. Be the first one to include someone in the group. Be the first one to start the conversation. Be the first one to say, “Thank you.” Be the first one to take that next, right, action for you!

And when you decide to give first, to love first, to help first, to be first, the world opens up to you in ways that you can’t imagine. The abundance and gratitude you feel, just by that one little shift, is like a tidal wave of light that raises you up, but also, raises everyone else up.

Isn’t that the whole point?

When you are at death’s door, what do you really want to feel about yourself and about how you lived your life? You are the judge of your successes and failures.

You only have this life to make it count, so what are you going to do?

If this at all resonates with you, make the decision. Be a light in this world, because we need more people who come alive in this way. Come on board the “BE FIRST MOVEMENT!” No, we don’t have a meeting hall or a Facebook group, but we can simply make the decision, each and every single day, to be first.


If you find that you do want to work with someone who is trained to help you get to your next level of fulfillment and success – where you want to “be first” in going for the best version of yourself, then I want you to consider working with me. The greatest transformation in my life happened when I worked with a coach trained to help me go to that next level and I want you to experience that kind of quality working relationship, as well.

Please click the link below and apply for a free strategy session with me where I let you experience the power of this style of coaching first hand. Your next level starts when you say yes to that next, best, right step for you.

CLICK THE LINK AND APPLY TODAY! https://challengeyourvision.com/coaching/

I believe in you and your ability to figure out the next right steps for you!

Thank you so much for reading and until next time, remember to be first.

With love and respect,