What or who guides your decision making?

**Edited and revised on 2/10/2021.

It’s summer time and as the song says, “living is easy,” but for some of us, living is anything but easy. We may seem like we are fully engaged and generally happy about our lives, however, in the backs of our minds, we worry about the road ahead and about what our next steps should be.

Oh, your daddy’s rich
And your ma is good lookin’
So hush, little baby
Don’t you cry

Not many of us have the luck and the luxury to be born with a silver spoon in our mouths. Still, most of us want to be successful and to have the kind of life experiences that make us feel like we matter– like we can make a difference and are valued not only for who we are, but also, for the contributions we’ve made.

To reverse engineer those qualitative goals, we need to have some qualities that make it more likely those results will occur. It’s not only the competence of our technical skills that matter, it is also demonstrating the courage required to clearly connect the dots that has given us our results.

One of these mornings
You’re going to rise up singing
Then you’ll spread your wings
And you’ll take the sky
But ’til that morning
There’s a’nothing can harm you
With daddy and mammy standing by

You don’t need mammy or daddy standing by. You can develop the mindset and the skill set to “take the sky.”

It’s easy for us to see input in and results out to identify the tasks that contributed to our outcomes. It is not so easy for us to see the qualities of the person that went into those inputs. It is often HOW or with what intention we approach what we do that matters, just as much, as WHAT we actually do.

What life experiences shaped your perspective?

Through my years of “life” training – whether it was in school, college, flying airplanes, certifications, coaching clients from various backgrounds or having a variety of life experiences that formed my perspective, I recognized that taking a stand for who I am and for what I believe in is the KEY to achieving the goals that, more often than not, give you and I the feelings and the experiences we are after.

What are those feelings that impact us the most? On the positive side, they are the feelings of satisfaction, confidence, importance, love, appreciation, respect, intelligence, success, happiness and joy. On the not so positive side, they are the feelings of frustration, fear, embarrassment, loneliness, hatred, disrespect, anger, pain and suffering.

Have you thought enough about WHO you are showing up as in order to achieve those positive, qualitative goals? If not, I believe it may be time for you to start.

When we are committed and decisive about who we are and what we believe in, those positive, qualitative goals are much easier to achieve. If you remember nothing else from this post remember this: every goal is a proxy for how you want to feel.


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Thank you so much for reading and until next time,

Make the most out of the time you have!

With love and respect,