“You’re going to do what?” That was the question my friends and family asked me when I told them that I had decided to become a pilot.
Back when I started flying, there were not a lot of female pilots in the air, so it was unusual to hear that I wanted to teach people how to fly airplanes.
At the time, I didn’t really care about the naysayers who let me know with their raised eyebrows and snarky comments that they thought I was certifiable. What mattered to me was that I got to be in the air every single day!
That goal was born out of the sheer love I felt for piloting an aircraft. I saved up for 2 years to pay for my training and now it was happening. Alone in the sky, I felt connected to everything around me. The world made sense and so did I. I loved to pre-flight. I loved to talk planes. I even loved ground school! That’s how I knew that the next step for me was to become a flight instructor.
I followed my bliss and I found a profession that I loved.
Legend tells us that at the end of the rainbow, we’re supposed to find a pot of gold. But when you and I attain our most coveted goals, many of us feel empty afterwards. Do you? Have you found yourself questioning why you went after those goals in the first place?
In other words, are you following your bliss or are you following somebody else’s directives?
If so, you’re not alone. Sometimes, the goals we choose for ourselves belong to other people. They were the goals our parents wanted for us or they were the goals that caused us to be accepted as part of a group. Perhaps, they were the goals that would make us feel admired and respected by others. Rarely, did we stop to ask, “Is this something that I love and am I proud of myself for doing it?”
How do you know whether your goals are right for you?
One way you can find out whether a goal is right for you is by using inquiry. Answer the four questions below to see whether you are acting on your own initiative or whether you are acting on the voices of your parents, peers, or prominent people that you admire.
Goal Alignment Check-In
- Does the goal meet your needs or your values as defined by you? If not, you have to identify how it would make you feel to continue to work toward that goal and decide whether the tradeoffs are worth the pain of the inevitable conflicts that will arise.
- Does the goal give you joy as you work toward it or do you dislike the process but want the reward? If you love what you do, then it will be easier to continue when obstacles appear. If, however, you are only looking forward to the reward, it’s not only much harder to be successful, it is also harder to control your mindset during the process. If you still want it, you have to plan for the pain and prepare accordingly.
- Why do you want that goal? What feeling are you going after? If your answer has to do with pleasing others, you need to identify why and whether you are doing it for the right reasons.
- Do you see yourself as the type of person who achieves that kind of goal? If this is a no, evaluate why you want the goal in the first place. You have to see yourself as capable in order to succeed.
This framework helps you to gain clarity about the drivers of your goal choices. The clearer you are about those drivers, the better decisions you will make when it comes to choosing a goal.
If you find that your goals are not giving you the kind of life you want, your habits could be blocking your path to success.
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Isn’t it about time to stop wasting your time on excuses and procrastination? If you want to live an extraordinary life – a life that you would be proud to call your own – then I urge you to get serious and stop complaining about how hard it is. Take back ownership of yourself and your life.
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What would it feel like for you to be able to look back at the end of the year with the excitement, the pride, and the knowledge that you made those important goals – those dreams – happen? There’s still time to turn it around.
You achieved this level of success with the actions, beliefs, skills, and habits that you have now. Is that enough to take you to the next level?
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Thank you so much for reading and until next time, make the most out of the time you have!
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